Dear frustrated Parents out there

Dear frustrated parents out there,
Your child/ren did not ask to be born and I am sure you can remember when you learned about them growing and how bittersweet the news was. At first maybe if it was a surprise you were horrified but that didn't last long. Soon you became excited and began dreaming what the child will be like and what they will be interested in. Wondered what they will look like. The sonograms just made you love them even more and excited you so much you couldn't wait to hold them in your arms.
And here they are frustrating you to no end.
Take a deep breath and repeat this mantra with me:
"My child did not ask to be born"
"This is the child I longed for 8 months to hold"
"This is a phase and will get better"
Just take things one day at a time or one hour at a time and if needed one minute at a time. Walk away when you can't control you and your words and actions. (Making sure they are someplace safe first). Deep breaths. You can face this. It is temporary.  Think back when you wanted this child and hold on to that connection you made when they were growing.
If you can remember a time maybe after birth and looking at them you felt elated in amazement how such a small baby could move you to want to be selfless and give them everything you can so they have the best life.
If you faced postpartum depression and never experienced this even today please seek professional help, it is okay to reach out for help and you don't have to feel that way you do. It is okay to feel that way. But you need  to get help so you can experience these feelings your brain is not allowing you to feel.
If you are a father and you fear the child is not yours there is dna testing to ease your mind or verify your suspicions are true. Then if you find you are not the father you can make a choice to love them as your own and be the best step dad as you can be or walk away with your broken heart and hope you can recover from deceit.
My thoughts and prayers are out there for each and everyone of you. I hope this helps you to enjoy your children instead of being frustrated with them being kids.
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo D