Dear frustrated Parents out there

Dear frustrated parents out there,
Your child/ren did not ask to be born and I am sure you can remember when you learned about them growing and how bittersweet the news was. At first maybe if it was a surprise you were horrified but that didn't last long. Soon you became excited and began dreaming what the child will be like and what they will be interested in. Wondered what they will look like. The sonograms just made you love them even more and excited you so much you couldn't wait to hold them in your arms.
And here they are frustrating you to no end.
Take a deep breath and repeat this mantra with me:
"My child did not ask to be born"
"This is the child I longed for 8 months to hold"
"This is a phase and will get better"
Just take things one day at a time or one hour at a time and if needed one minute at a time. Walk away when you can't control you and your words and actions. (Making sure they are someplace safe first). Deep breaths. You can face this. It is temporary.  Think back when you wanted this child and hold on to that connection you made when they were growing.
If you can remember a time maybe after birth and looking at them you felt elated in amazement how such a small baby could move you to want to be selfless and give them everything you can so they have the best life.
If you faced postpartum depression and never experienced this even today please seek professional help, it is okay to reach out for help and you don't have to feel that way you do. It is okay to feel that way. But you need  to get help so you can experience these feelings your brain is not allowing you to feel.
If you are a father and you fear the child is not yours there is dna testing to ease your mind or verify your suspicions are true. Then if you find you are not the father you can make a choice to love them as your own and be the best step dad as you can be or walk away with your broken heart and hope you can recover from deceit.
My thoughts and prayers are out there for each and everyone of you. I hope this helps you to enjoy your children instead of being frustrated with them being kids.
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo D

I think red dye is a drug...this is why

Okay, so I've noticed a trend in my son. Whenever he gets tired he reaches for things that have red dye. He claims it gives him energy he needs. Now let explain to you why this dye is a drug and I welcome you to sway me from my belief.
When I as a child had red dye I would end up making impulsive decisions to do things or say things and it also had a negative effect where anything and everything sent me into a crying slobbery sobbing fit. My mom always had me eat a piece of bread and either by focusing on eating or the bread absorbing said red dye I was able to calm down and tell her what happened to cause such hysteria.
Now with my son he too reacts but in a rage way as well as energy can't sit still just a hot mess at times cuz he always ends it with he is going to just go kill himself. Just extreme of course throw testosterone in the mix this would be expected.
So the reason I say it's a drug is because he goes to the store and gets anything he can with it in it so he is seeking it out to get his fix and the bottom out is the self hate ending I rather avoid. The desperation I had felt as a child and even as an adult after eating red dye or drinking it is not as bad cuz I can recognize the issue at hand and remedy it with my mother's trick with the bread.
The other day I had some confrontation that lead me to want to cut...I am a cutter not proud of it but it's a cross I bare, in my mind it releases the inner pain so I can help it heal but this isn't okay and I'm working on it...so the urge arose after an encounter that hurt me deep, so I sought out red dye in an energy drink to give myself the extra push to commit the act...without a care about what my future may ensue...and I cried uncontrollably for the rest the evening.
So I think it is a drug. Why most energy drinks have red dye cuz it does something to the mind...at least my son and my minds.
This concludes my rant about red dye 40 and the hypothesis of it being a drug. Comment if you could see it as that or if you'd like to dispute my theory.
Thank you for reading my short article. I hope they research it better and get it off the market soon.
Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo (D)

A note to child molesters and rapist

Dear mentally ill individual,
You are ruining our future by destroying young children with your perverse and selfish acts you do to children every day. It makes me so freaking sick to my stomach to even think about what you do to children. You not only destroy their trust of adults, but also they get their emotions messed up. Years of trust and emotional turmoil possibly for the rest of their life. (I don't know I am only 37 and still suffering). Not to mention physical harm that can come with your selfish act. How can you even get aroused? or stay aroused during the act? You seriously cannot get laid and have to destroy a child to fill a need your body can be taken care of by your own self. Quit being selfish!

Was it your childhood? Were you abused as a kid and wanna pass on the turmoil you been suffering from onto another child to live the life you lead? Why do you think this is OK? I don't understand your mentality. I wish you would turn yourself in and stop yourself from hurting children. I am so grossed out. Maybe you have a fascination with little people. Maybe you should try and seek a relationship with an adult little person? Was it the umpaloompas? Was it Willow? some other character of short stature?

This is NOT okay and will NEVER be OK to have sexual relations with a child. I hope it messes you up in your head even more and makes you never do it again. I also hope you receive mental healing so you don't do it again. I hope the guilt makes you step forward and admit your wrong doing. Serve your time, and get mental help you clearly need. I also wish you got more time for your crimes. I also hope your jail mate turns you into their bitch and they molest you 10 fold.

If you think for a second about doing sexual things to a child instead go to your nearest mental hospital and seek the help you need to keep in control of your urges and impulses you obviously can't control and you need help before you do this and ruin a childs life that eventually will be an adult and run this country. You technically are ruining your leaders and people in charge of your long term care when you get up in age. Maybe you are already in a high age you are ruining the world for your generation and your family. You are more selfish than you realize.

Please seek help!
Sincerely,
Concerned mother of 7

A Note to Suicidal People Out There

Why can't everyone just get along? living in peace and harmony? Drama should stay on the tv screen and not in peoples lives...IDK why people like drama and can't just drop stuff and move on...do what needs to be done so the drama can stop, and that is avoid situations that could and has developed drama in the past and just not feed into it...it breaks my heart how people treat each other...

Jesus set the example...We aren't perfect no...we aren't expected to be...but loving your neighbor as you love yourself is pretty self explanatory...love everyone even with their faults and hiccups and mistakes...everyone makes them even you...sure there are repeat offenders out there...just cut those away from you as Jesus also commanded...there are such things as bad fruits and if they are making your branches stop growing and making your life enjoyable cut them suckers off and keep on with your life as if a weight has been lifted...cuz it will feel like exactly that...breath deep in your freedom from that weighted down branch that wasn't providing fruit on your tree...

Everyone is individuals...what a boring place this would be if everyone was the exact same as the other...I cannot understand why anyone would play victim in situations that were construed because of pills and alcohol (not me just to clarify)...maybe you need to clarify what someone told you before you go and accuse them of saying something they didn't...make sure you heard it correctly...THEN you have permission to call attention to said individual if they are in the wrong...OR..just block them and move on with your life and be done...two choices...choose wisely...

Because after awhile of you doing stuff like drawing attention to situations that need not brought to because they are construed or elaborated or exaggerated because soon...people will catch on that maybe just maybe you might be just attention seeking or exaggerating situations to yeah get attention...and they won't hone in on you anymore...and just stop following your posts and stop seeing your posts...because the pattern is just too obvious...and it drains people down...

Why put such strain on your "friends" and family? (I been there so I ain't holding no halo here...I just wised up and am done with it because I am tired of being alone...and I am sorry for putting everyone through it)...It is too much weight to bare for anyone...

There are apps to professionally help you in your times of despair...Safety Plan is one on google store my therapist has me using it it has coping skills and phone numbers to call and talk to professionals vs friends and family who don't know how to help other than to feed into the drama and wanna stir shit up for the accused attacker...where does it end? well, it ends with you...step up...admit your wrong...and go on with your life without said offenders...and rise above them and it all...

You deserve to thrive...but the only way you are going to thrive is if you stop feeding in on the drama and just avoid the situations that lead you to those horrible feelings...surround yourself with people who are positive and helpful...and then you hopefully will join them...

*NEWS FLASH* The world is NOT watching you...this is not no "Truman show" no matter how much each individual you pass by on the street (yes everyone feels that way) thinks it is...the world does not revolve around you...nor does it care about your faults, your doubts, your insecurities, your anxieties, your mistakes, your everything...it keeps moving along as if nothing happened when you feel your world has stopped...you gotta not let things trip you up so bad that you fall into a pit of despair...Because your world may seem to have stopped and you want off the roller coaster because you are so sick and barfing off the edge...hate to break it to you but that is just life and you gotta just dust yourself off and keep on going...

Life is NOT going to wait for you to get your shit together...nope...it is going to keep right on trucking at the same speed and sure its hard to get back on the ride because it is going so fast but you gotta do it...Life IS worth living...if not for yourself then for others until you can love yourself enough to do it for yourself....

Those moments of despair and only way out moments...yeah those...they will leave in waves just wait it out...tide sure comes in but it always goes back down and you CAN get through the waves and high tide moments...get safe use some coping skills...and soon it will be over and you will be able to safely say "OK I got this!"

I will never understand bullies...I just don't have it in my nature to be that to anyone...I hurt when I hurt people I don't feel better about myself...I don't know how anyone can feel better about their selves....maybe its misery loves company? I just don't know...I can't get into the mindset of these bullies...

We as society...as man kind...should be building each other up instead of tearing each other down...Population control anyone? This suicide crap needs to stop! and stop NOW! Everything that is going on in that moment when you give up...is temporary...you will live through it and guess what?....the world won't stop...nope it keeps right on trucking along.

But if you do kill yourself....those who care for you and love you deeply will wonder what they could have done differently to help you...may even blame their selves because maybe a day or two ago you messaged them to talk and they were too busy to chat and so they feel guilty for you killing yourself...

Suicide is not selfish...because it is not about ones self...its about those around you who couldn't stop you from doing it...It is a world changer for those around you...and those who knew you...it don't effect you as a self...it effects everyone around you...believe me when I say that you are loved and will be missed if you take that route...you may not know it now or refuse to acknowledge it...but it is true...

You got this! Man up and take charge of your ride and make it do what you want it to...stop allowing others to have charge over it and make you do what they want you to do...You know what they say are not true, so just say "So" and move on...(I learned that from an episode from "Little Bill") when you do it takes that power the attacker thinks they have over you away...clean out of their hands...and soon they will know they can't get to you and move on to their next victim for whatever reason they desire to do so (still confused by it, if anyone out there that is or was a bully, let me know in my comments as to why you do such things thanks)...

To end my rant and encouraging speech (at least I hope that this is encouraging) I wanna say...I hope you have a better day today and even better day tomorrow for the rest of your life and I hope your life is long and prosperous and full of everything your heart desires...wisdom too...

Now....Go live your life the way you wanna and drop the haters and dramatic fools from your life and flourish!

You're welcome.

Sincerely,

Rabeka Jo

If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide please Call 1-800-273-8255 to talk to a professional and get the help you need...friends and family are not trained and you may end up talking to the wrong person...please call the trained people so you can actually get the help you need. God Bless you all and Peace be with you XOXO