Sunday, June 16, 2019

Dear film writers and tv writers and social media folks

Dear perfect life illusionist,
In life we are either alone waiting for the right one, or we feel stuck in the relationship we are in, or we are content in either. The reason is because we are comparing ourselves to those on social media or in movies or on tv.

What if tv and movies were more realistic? So we can bring down expectations and level the playing field. And what if we shared our not so much greatest moments in our lives to level the playing field on social media and stop using filters people you are perfect just the way you are.

Life and relationships are not always going your way all the time. If it is congratulations you are a rare unicorn amidst reality. Until the bar is lowered on our screens, the make believe world of perfection in our faces will just continue making us expect perfection all the time and be miserable in our not so perfect lives.

So directors, writers, and people stop making life seem perfect all the time, because reality is that rarely does it ever go so smoothly. Thanks.

Sincerely,

Inadequate woman

Saturday, February 09, 2019

Mental Illness

I wrote this while in the mental hospital: When mental illness overrules your life, sorrowful sadness engulfs your every being cutting friends and family out with a knife, because they don't understand. The feelings, the actions, the thinking, the sheer panic is out of your control, and all you seek is a validation of said ailments. Few people are on board, most are not. Faking it until you make it works some but mostly just masks and makes it worse. But the few who know it is real and it is hard are too few and far between. Majority rule over your life is NOT on the same page, they say you don't need meds, you don't need help, you don't need these things. YOU ARE STRONG YOU GOT THIS! BUT I DON'T! I DO NEED HELP! FUCK EVERYONE! I AM NOT STRONG! I AM BROKEN! AND THAT'S OKAY! If it's not Okay with most so be it they can get the fuck out of my life cuz this is MY LIFE and I want a life worth living, cuz this life today, right now, is not worth living! So yeah that was a moment of a sheer outpouring of emotions, and pure internal chaos poured out on paper. Hope this helps someone out there. We will be okay someday, we just have to wait for this internal narrative to get out, then not act upon the thoughts of running away or killing ourselves cuz it will pass believe me it does it may take a few minutes to a few days but in the meantime do your coping skills, coloring books, music, crafting, etc. Whatever you need to do to get through just do not do the things frowned upon, like cutting don't do that...society doesn't understand that outlet so don't do that. I am here for you if you need me to be BUT, if you are male I am sorry you are going to have to find someone else as I get too emotionally involved with that said inquirer. Sorry, not sorry...gotta preserve my marriage at this point in time. I hope you understand. God Bless you! Call the suicide hotline or call the crisis hotline or there is even a texting service just have to be patient with them to text back as it seems to take a bit longer than needed I believe so Crisis needs to be handled by call center but one that can wait through a pretty long waiting period can text. This is MY advice, I am not a professional, and I just am sharing what works and doesn't work for me. Writing is my outlet. I hope sharing my outlet with the world helps at least one person. Because I feel like I am here for nothing, I am going through all this for nothing. I have a story but no one gets the whole share it thing and think I am seeking a pity party and that isn't it I just wanna help someone. If I inspired you please drop it in the comments cuz that is what I want in this life, to be someone that changed someones outlook on life. Thanks, Sincerely, Beka Jo D