Is suicide really the answer? I say NO!

Let me put this solution to rest for you, before you put yourself to rest for the world to mourn the loss of you.

You stumbled onto my blog for a reason and here is the reason, I'm going to share with you why suicide is not the answer to whatever it is that is currently wrong in your life. Why because I don't want any more lives to be lost in the midst of despair of a current circumstance.

Whatever it is you are going through in this very moment will change, you just have to hang in there make some changes where you can and accept the things you can't change and find a way to make that work for you.

This is far from the end of your life be it a boyfriend broke up with you on down to a terrible loss in your life. There are so many people fighting for their lives, and here you are thinking of ending yours? Just because something feels so horribly wrong, the only solution you can find is to end your life? Well stop right there! Let me shed some light on this crazy assumption that suicide is a solution.

A permanent solution to a temporary problem is not the answer to your problem. Sure the problem goes away but so do you and guess what? You will be missed by many people who love and care for you! Maybe they show it in ways you see as mean be it a parent who doesn't allow you to date someone you really love. Or they won't let you stay out past a certain hour. Or won't let you hang out with your friends who have gotten you in trouble in the past. They do love you and they want better for you, even if you think you know what you want and you think you know what is best for you, until you are 18 and have a job and place of your own, you will have to stick it out and play by their rules. And you can make it. Just obey them and strive to get good grades, and a job when you are old enough and save that money to get a place of your own when you turn 18 so you can do what you think is best for you so you can find out hopefully gently (unlike me), that maybe your parent wasn't so wrong after all.

Maybe you are being bullied at school. And these bullies are making you feel like you are worthless and that no one would miss you if you offed yourself. I know for a fact they are very wrong. And you are far from anything they say about you. Stop believing them! Don't give them that power over you any longer! If its not true what they say then just simply say "so" and walk away. If they are physically harming you, tell an adult. Snitches get stitches? So! what more harm can they do to you than they already are doing to you? If what they say is truth because before they started bullying you they were a close friend and you let them know some secret they wave in front of you every chance they get, say "so, I am not that person anymore I'm better and stronger and smarter now" and take that power away from them. Stick up for yourself...stop allowing them to make you feel bad about who you were/are. If you are too skinny and they say for you to give back big birds legs, laugh at them and say man that was a good one do (point to their "hinchmen") (then say) "wait for it this is going to be a great one"...and slap your knee...same goes for other body type jokes. Ya know they don't have power unless you give it to them. You were not put here to be perfect, you were put here to be exactly who you are, and if anyone doesn't like you for you, guess what, its their loss not yours! Some power they have, they just lost the chance to be your friend, and that is a huge loss because you are an awesome person!

Let's say your boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with you without warning and is now spreading horrible lies about you, either you're a slut or a nun who wouldn't put out. So what, anyone who wants to believe the rumors that he is spreading, that is on them and their loss. You are better than that, sure maybe you made a few mistakes in life, but who doesn't?! I'd like to meet them! Try and focus on the way the boyfriend/girlfriend was a bad deal and see that hey maybe you're better off without them. Sure it hurts bad, but not bad enough to end your life! Its not the solution. Maybe they cheated on you and yes that hurts bad too. But it is their loss not yours...at least you found out now and not later! You are stronger now and won't stand for that ever again and you are now educated in what to look for when the next one might try and pull it over on you again. Sure it hurts to lose the love of your life. And I promise they won't be your last love. There will be more. Just hang on and wait and see what life has in store for you! Its like a movie, you don't want to get up and leave before you see the end!

Life is hard, but it makes you stronger if you let it. You don't know how many times I've thought my life was over in my 34 years of life, and I've unsuccessfully attempted suicide three times and for that I am very thankful! Cuz wow what a life I have lived and no it wasn't easy and yes I thought many times it was over...but its just starting.

Please don't kill yourself. This circumstance in your life will pass. I promise! Your life is so much more than a circumstance!

If you are suffering from depression, seek help from a counselor learn some skills that will help lead your mind to more positive thoughts. Take medication if it works for you, if not keep trying until you find a winner. Life isn't what happens to you, its how you react to what happens to you! So if how you are reacting isn't working out for you, change it! You can't wait for someone to come and change it for you! People are humans. Are you perfect? Reliable? Or any of the things you look for in a person? No? Funny how we look for things that turn out to be unicorns who don't exist huh? Well humans are not built to hold other humans up, just their selves. Humans will let you down time and time again. You have to learn to rely on yourself and be your own hero and make changes in your life to better your life. No one else can do it the way you can do it. And their way won't be the way you need it to be done. So take charge and do all you can to make your life the way you want it to be!

You can do it! You are an amazing person and deserve to live life to the fullest no matter what everyone around you does or says! Haters can hate, they can't effect you unless you allow them to, so stop allowing them to! You have power over you, not them either, but they waste their power over themselves trying to make you and others feel bad. Let them waste their time and energy, and use your energy to rise above them and do something with your life. Violence is never the answer though, I want to be clear here. You are better than that and don't want to waste your time and energy on violence. It never solves problems only creates new problems. So don't trade problems for more problems.

You got this and if you need some more pep talk comment below your situation, just listen to me not any haters that may comment replies to your comment OK? Promise? OK now go comment your personal struggle that led you here today, what you got from what I said here, and if I didn't touch your situation allow me to address it in a comment reply to you. I want to help people overcome this morbid belief that suicide is the answer to all circumstances cuz it is not the answer! Please if I don't respond and you feel strong feelings of suicide being the answer please call someone there are suicide hotlines and your parents I'd hope you could talk to them and they can get you the help you need, just please don't do anything stupid, reach out to a teacher, school counselor, friends parent, principle, anyone you trust, just don't listen to them if they agree its the answer cuz it is not and you need to find someone else to talk to, please hang in there I will answer as soon as I am able...sorry, I'm a busy mom but I will do my best to check email at least once a day for comments. So please give me at least 24hrs to 48hrs to reply to you.

Thank you for reading, I hope it helped someone, please comment if it did help, so I feel like I did something worth while with my time. Thanks.

Sincerely,
Rabeka Jo

for more of an instant help you should call the suicide prevention hotline google it! I know that phone is heavy but so is your heart and you cannot continue letting your heart rule your life...get help if this article didn't help you...I don't want to see anymore suicides out there!